He says I have to get pregnant and confirmed by a doctor before we can get married. His reason is that many ladies in this century have played a wild life, committed several abortions, destroyed their wombs, and joined the church in the name of repentance. He needs to know that his wife, virgin or non-virgin, has the capacity to give birth to his next generation. He is the only son of his mother and she wants to be sure she will see her grandchildren. This guy is not a womaniser. In fact, he is a devote Christian and Born again. He loves God, but he says that God must understand the circumstances of this fornication. Please Sir, can I look the other way and give into his request?
Dear Sister,
I have travelled many cities and heard many stories. Men who want their girl friends to be graduates before they can propose marriage. Men who want a male child, before they pay dowry. Men who want everything, before they can give commitment.
I have travelled many cities and heard many stories. Men who want their girl friends to be graduates before they can propose marriage. Men who want a male child, before they pay dowry. Men who want everything, before they can give commitment.
I wept with a lady in Ughelli who agreed to such demands. She got pregnant for her man to confirm her fertility and excited came home with the proof. Then to her shock, he asked her to abort the paper, that he needs some more time. As at the time I saw her, he was with another lady and had abandoned her. He was also a devote Christian and member of a vibrant Pentecostal church.
I also know a lady whose husband turned out to be "completely incapable of producing sperm". Her fertility was never to be proved as she couldn't impregnate herself.
I also know of couples, who medically are fertile, husband is perfect, wife is perfect, and the God that gives children has not given them one. Like Zecharias and Elizabeth, who were blameless before the Lord, they remained childless and they had to enjoy themselves.
I need you to ask a question:
1. What if this man is the one who can't impregnate a girl?
2. What if I did have this child but the child after birth, and lost my womb in the process, will this be the end of my marriage?
3. Is having a child the sole purpose of marriage?
1. What if this man is the one who can't impregnate a girl?
2. What if I did have this child but the child after birth, and lost my womb in the process, will this be the end of my marriage?
3. Is having a child the sole purpose of marriage?
A man who allows his mother's desires for child to manipulate him is still a boy.
A man who takes the cases of darkness of society as the reason to impose bondage on others, is a criminal.
A man who does not understand that marriage is beyond sex, boy pickin, and procreation, needs to go for psychiatric evaluation.
A devote Christian who does not regard God's word is not a Christian.
There are many ladies that won't even think about this guy's offer before they jump into his bed. They would even be excited to get pregnant to "tie" him into marriage. But I will just leave you with a single thought:
"Personally, I (Tekena Ikoko) was married for 10 years without a child. After 8 years I had a son, but lost him after three weeks. This year is 16 years that I've been married and I have a lovely daughter, Samuella. I wish I can have more children. But I am NEVER going to allow the presence or absence of a child determine the commitment of love to my wife. My marital love for my wife is UNCONDITIONAL!"
Your choice will be tough, but may God who honours Esther when she lays down her life because of the Kingdom of Heaven, be your stay. Amen.
@tekenaikoko
Pls share on your social media platforms so that all youths will also learn as you just did.
God bless you and remain a RANGER of the GOSPEL
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